Marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will make. Yet most people enter it with surprisingly little actually verified information.

Proof Before Marriage is a practical guide to checking what you think you know before you commit.

The book examines the questions that often remain unspoken before marriage: Is the person telling the truth? What are their finances really like? Have they been married before? What does their family expect? Will both partners continue working? Where will you live? What about children, money, parents, household responsibilities and career decisions?

At the heart of the book is a simple three-column method:

O — Observed: What you have actually seen.
T — Told: What somebody has told you.
A — Assumed: What you have inferred without anyone confirming it.

From there, the book takes you through practical verification, difficult conversations, family expectations, financial transparency, matrimonial fraud, arranged versus love marriages, career and children, living arrangements, disagreements, warning signs and deal breakers.

It also addresses a particularly modern problem: the gap between the marriage people were raised to expect and the marriage two people are actually about to build.

This is not a book telling you whom to marry.

It is a framework for asking better questions, checking important claims, identifying assumptions and making a major life decision with more information and fewer surprises.

Don't marry on promises alone. Know what you know, know what you don't—and verify what matters.

The book describes its central premise as a need to check information that is commonly supplied by people who have an interest in the marriage happening.