Your yes should mean yes. So should your no.
The yes leaves your mouth before you have checked your calendar. Later come the resentment, the exhaustion and the quiet sense that there is no room left for you. You may care deeply about the person who asked. You may also be tired of disappearing from the arrangements you help to make.
This book is about consent in ordinary decisions: understanding a request, knowing its cost and answering honestly. It will not ask you to become unreachable or uncaring. It will help your care become more truthful and more sustainable.
• A map of 40 reasons people say yes when they mean no, in families, workplaces, friendships, money matters and online
• 20 practical tools, from a pause before answering to renegotiating an old promise
• Ten stories of people learning to give within their limits
• Reflections from the Mahabharata, the Ramayana, the Buddha's teachings and the Tirukkural
• Clear guidance for when a limit brings threats, and safety must come first
Book 5 of the Dharohar Everyday Life Series. A guide for reflection, not a substitute for professional or legal advice.