She loved you. And she could not meet you. Both of those things are true at the same time.

The mother wound is not about blame. It has never been about blame. It is about the gap between the mother you needed and the mother you had — and what formed in that gap, quietly, before you were old enough to question whether it was true.
It shows up in the way you cannot fully rest without guilt. In the way you say yes when your whole body is saying no. In the way you have spent years trying to earn the exact thing that was supposed to be freely given. In the way you still, at thirty or forty or twenty-six, feel a particular anxiety when she calls. In the way you pursue people who are not quite available and feel faintly suspicious of people who are.

This book is about that.

Healing the Mother Wound takes you through the six faces of the wound — the emotionally absent mother, the critical and conditional mother, the enmeshed mother, the competing mother, the abusive mother, the mother who was simply gone — and shows you, with precision and without judgment, what each one built inside you, how it is running your relationships, your work, and your body right now, and what the path out actually looks like.

You will recognize yourself before you are told you are being described. That recognition is the beginning of the only work that changes anything.
This is not a book that tells you what to do. It is a book that holds a mirror still enough for you to finally see what has been running your life from the inside.
You are allowed to look at this clearly. Seeing clearly is not a betrayal. It is the only foundation on which any real healing can be built.

She gave you everything she had. What she had was a wound of her own. Both of those things are true at the same time. And the work — your work — begins in the space between those two sentences.
From The Reclamation Series. Also by Nikita Datar: She Was Not Low Maintenance. She Was Trained. Healing the Father Wound Born to Break the Cycle