No one prepared you for this.

Not the diagnosis appointment. Not the drive home in silence. Not the nights you lay awake running the same questions through your head — Why my child? What did I do wrong? What happens when I'm gone?

And certainly not the moment you realised that everyone was asking how your child was doing, how your wife was coping, how the family was managing —

But no one was asking how you were doing.

This book is for you.

No One Asks How You Are Doing is written by Sanjaya Ganesh — not a doctor, not a therapist, but a father who has spent 17 years raising Appu, his son with moderate-to-severe autism, in India. What you'll find here isn't clinical advice dressed up in warm language. It's the honest, unfiltered account of one father to another — the grief, the discipline, the finances, the fear, and ultimately, the unexpected freedom that comes from fully accepting the chess board you've been dealt.

This book will walk you through:

The emotional cycle every autism father goes through — and why it never fully stops, but does get wider
Why positivity culture is lying to you, and what actually builds resilience
How to understand stimming, motivation, and your child's inner world without forcing them into a neurotypical mould
The only therapy that truly matters during the teenage years
Why your health is not separate from your child's future — it is your child's future
Ten financial rules every special needs father in India must know
A three-phase plan that transforms the question "What happens after I'm gone?" from a paralysing fear into a structured, actionable roadmap
This is not a book about inspiration. Inspiration fades. This is a book about the quiet, unglamorous, deeply human work of showing up — imperfectly, consistently, for decades — for a child who needs you to be larger than your circumstances.

You have a chess board. The pieces are arranged as they are. You didn't choose this. But you are the only one who can play it.

Play it well. This book will help.