Most people who struggle in love are not short of love. They are short of understanding.

Love Is Directly Proportional to Understanding starts from one idea, Prem = Samjhan, and follows it through twenty-three chapters. It asks why people who truly love each other so often end up feeling unseen, unheard and alone. Love, the author argues, is not only a feeling. It has to travel from one person to another, and understanding is the only road it can take.

The book draws on Indian spiritual teaching (karma, maya, dharma, brahmacharya and the Garud Puran) and on modern research into relationships. In plain language, it explains why we fail even when we know better, why relationships begin to hurt, why each of us loves in a different way, and what love actually is once expectation is removed. Every idea is set in ordinary life: the dinner table, the phone call, the argument that never needed to happen.

There are no exercises and no homework. No special vocabulary or religious background is needed, and every old word is explained the first time it appears.

Inside, you will discover:

Why love fails to arrive even when it is sincere
How karma, maya and dharma apply to everyday relationships
Why every person speaks a different emotional language
How a calm, steady mind makes you a kinder partner, parent and friend
What to do tomorrow morning to turn understanding into practice

Written for readers from their teens to their sixties, this book is for anyone who has ever loved someone and wished they had known how to do it better.

Love will follow understanding. It always has.